How to Have a Successful Online Dating Experience
Feeling fed up with meeting random people set up by your friends and family?
All of them seem dull and boring.
You’ve reached the point where you’re starting to question whether they know you and your dating preference.
After many failed blind dates, you are left feeling hopeless. You begin to ask yourself if you’ll ever find love.
Finally, you start to look for other dating options, such as online dating.
The process is foreign to you and you’re having trouble setting things up.
Lucky for you, you’ve stumbled on the right page!
This article was specifically written for you. Below are tips and tricks to have a successful online dating experience.
Step One: Picking the right dating app or site.
In today’s time, there’s no shortage of dating apps and sites. There are so many that we struggle to mention everything. But we’ll try to narrow it down for you.
To get you started, you need to know what you’re looking for.
Which do you prefer:
Someone within your local area? Or are you open to someone from overseas?
Women with higher education? Or women who belong to a certain profession?
A dating app or site that’s free? Or one that requires you to pay a certain fee but makes the experience worth it?
Think about what you want.
Next is choosing the right app or site according to your preferences.
CNET recommends these top dating apps and sites:
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Match.com - pay a subscription fee to access exclusive membership perks.
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Hinge mobile app - most members seek long-term relationships.
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OkCupid.com - free and one of the best on the market.
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Tinder mobile app - an app or dating site that’s ideal for hookups.
Finally, create an account with the app or site you picked.
Step Two: Choosing the perfect default photo.
It’s time to work on your dating profile. The most important part is your photo. It’s the first thing a potential match sees. Hence, it’s crucial that you pick the right one to use.
The better profile photos you use, the more women will want to match with you.
Did you know that you can tell a lot about a person just by looking at their photos? You can pick up on their sense of style, their lifestyle, and even their personalities. Though you haven’t met them in real life, you’ll still form an impression of them based on their photos online.
With that said, here are a few tips to make yourself look attractive online:
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Avoid neutral colors. Wear something red or any colored clothing. According to psychology, humans are instantly attracted to bright colors such as red.
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Make use of the “ugly friend effect.” Take a picture with your less attractive friend and use it as your profile pic. They’ll make you look good.
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Make use of interesting props. Take a photo of you and your pet. It gives people the idea that you’re kind, patient, and nurturing. Science says so.
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Ditch dull and emotionless selfies. Smile. It makes you look friendly and welcoming.
Lastly, it’s important that your profile picture reflects who you are as a person. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. Not only will you disappoint others, but you’re also fooling yourself.
Step Three: Writing an interesting bio for your profile.
Be interesting yet honest. Write something worth the read. To add, don’t write too much or too little. Limit your bio to 150-300 words, enough to spark the interest of online daters.
Below are some ideas:
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Discuss what you are looking for in a partner.
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Talk about how you can contribute to the relationship.
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Be weird, random, and funny.
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Conversation starters also work.
Use your creativity and come up with an interesting bio that’s able to grab the reader’s attention.
Step Four: Choosing the right women to talk to.
Now that your profile is all set, it’s finally time to start looking for potential matches.
Each dating app or site has its own algorithms that sort out matches. In some, you are given the choice to freely choose who you want to talk to. There are also other sites that pick the women for you.
In both cases, you’ll have the final decision as to who you want to pursue.
But be careful! It’s best to take precautions when interacting online. There are potential dangers of online dating such as having to deal with fake accounts and profiles. Not everyone online is who they say they are.
With this in mind, below are tips to avoid online deceptions:
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Choose profiles that have at least two images of the person’s face.
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Any profile that does not have links to social media is a red flag.
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If she’s too good to be true, she probably is.
Don’t let fake profiles ruin your online dating experience.
Step Five: Sending response-worthy messages.
If she appears real — checks your preferences and doesn’t seem like a fake profile — then send her a message! Go talk to her and see where it’ll lead you.
Okay, so you don’t know what to say. That’s not a problem. Here are some tips for online dating conversations:
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A good opening sentence is a gateway to her heart. Grab her interest by looking for something in common.
Example: “Hi! I’m Robert. I also listen to insert indie band here. Have you seen them live? They’re amazing!”
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Introduce yourself in an interesting and creative manner. Make it appear that “dating you” is a fun thing to do.
Example: “Hi, I’m Robert. I’m a thrill-seeker, a big bike enthusiast, and on the weekdays I volunteer in an animal shelter. I can take you on fun road adventures whenever you want. Add me and let’s talk.”
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Being random and weird also works. Ditch the cliche lines and be interesting.
Example: “Want to know a mind-blowing fact? Researchers found that smart people prefer ice cream over chocolate cake. I also just discovered this amazing ice cream shop. Do you want to visit it with me?”
See what we did there? Spark her interest.
Step Six: Asking her out.
Complete your online dating experience by going out on real life dates! Meet your match in the flesh and get to know them on a deeper level.
Extra Step: Have fun!
Don’t forget the most important thing: Enjoy the process. Take it as an adventure.
A successful online dating journey is measured through the amount of experience you get from it. Hence, take every rejection and failed date as a life lesson. Learn from it and try your best next time.
